Fatwa: # 45465
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
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Date: 8th September 2020

Title

Intimate toys - Husband & wife relations

Question

As salaamu alaikum

I know that masterbation is haram but if the wife masterbates the husband it is allowed.
My question is if it is allowed to use long distance masterbator toys for the husband.
The husband puts the masterbating toy which like a flashlight over his Penis and the wife can use her phone to activate the toy and it vibrates and stimulates the Penis.
Is this considered as the wife masterbating the husband and is it allowed?

Jazak Allahu Khayran kaseeren
Salaamu alaikum wa rahmutullahi wabarakatuh

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Hayaa is part of Imaan and a believer will always have to govern himself/herself to acts of Hayaa and modesty.

The need for intimacy between spouses is natural.  However, it should be fulfilled with shame, modesty and dignity.

Whilst it is permissible for a spouse to pleasure his/her partner with the aid of intimate toys, we advise against the usage of such toys in a long-distance relationship. [1]

The husband should make adjustments with his work schedule and be close to his wife.

If the item in reference is used, the spouses should make Taubah and Istighfaar.

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

 

Muhammad I.V Patel

Assistant Mufti,

Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 


Islamic Guide to Sexual Relations

 

الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) – دار الفكر (6/ 367) [1]

…وعن أبي يوسف سألت أبا حنيفة عن الرجل يمس فرج امرأته، وهي تمس فرجه ليتحرك عليها هل ترى بذلك بأسا قال: لا وأرجو أن يعظم الأجر ذخيرة

 

المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني – دار الكتب العلمية، بيروت – لبنان (5/ 332)

وعن أبي يوسف في «الأمالي» قال: سألت أبا حنيفة رضي الله عنه عن الرجل يمس فرج امرأته، أو تمس هي فرجه ليتحرك عليها؛ هل ترى بذلك بأساً؟ قال: أرجو أن يعظم الأجر

 

الفتاوى الهندية – دار الفكر (5/ 328)

 قال أبو يوسف – رحمه الله تعالى -: سألت أبا حنيفة – رحمه الله تعالى – عن رجل يمس فرج امرأته وهي تمس فرجه لتحرك آلته هل ترى بذلك بأسا؟ قال: لا وأرجو أن يعطى الأجر، كذا في الخلاصة ويجرد زوجته للجماع إذا كان البيت صغيرا مقدار خمسة أذرع أو عشرة قال مجد الأئمة الترجماني وركن الصباغي والحافظ السائلي لا بأس بأن يتجردا في البيت، كذا في القنية

 



 

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