Fatwa: # 44418
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
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Date: 29th June 2020

Title

I am a revert, I want to get married but I am scared - Who will marry me?

Question

Assalamu aleikum..

 

I am a 28 year old girl living in Finland.

I converted to islam less than a year ago. Before that my whole life I didnt know anything. I am not virgin anymore and regret it so much at this point but there is nothing I can do about it... I want to get married but I am scares that I get problems for this since I know most of muslim men want a virgin girl. Help, what should I do...

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

We are pleased to note that Allah has blessed you with Islam. This is indeed a great bounty of Allah upon you. When you accepted Islam, you have commenced a new life. All your previous sins are forgiven. See the following ḥadīth. 

The Prophet (saw) said: “Islam wipes out all the previous sins”[1][1]

Sister, we advise you to educate yourself more on Islam and be steadfast on Islam. Sister, do not be apprehensive for not being a virgin. Turn to Allah and ask Allah to grant you a suitable and compatible spouse. When the time comes, exercise precaution, consult with the appropriate people, and also make istikhārah. 

If one informs the potential spouse of being a revert, he would understand the general life of a non-Muslim. It would be best to be open and transparent about issues directly related to marriage in order to avoid anxiety and complications after marriage. 

If a person is happy with your condition and accepts you for who you are, then you would enter a marriage with honesty and peace of mind.

Sister, turn to Allah and make duʿā that He grant you a suitable spouse. In Shā Allah, there will be somebody who will be proud of your accepting Islam and take care of you.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Usaamah Dadipatel

Student Darul Iftaa

Eshowe, KZN, South Africa.

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 

 

 


[2][1] aī Muslim: Ḥadīth: 121.

 

 

 

 

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