Fatwa: # 44286
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
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Date: 28th August 2020

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Miscellaneous Questions Regarding intimate relations

Question

Assalam o Alaikum!I want to ask you some questions written below. 1:Is it a sin to touch or rub penis without ejaculating? 2:Is it possible that only precum comes out not semen beacuse it happened to me 3 times and if it happens is it a sin? 3:Is it ok to see some inappropiate videos without any bad intention? for educational purposes.(like censored version and sometimes uncesored). 4:I broke my promise to Allah about 2 times but i made it again.How can i condon that you know what i meant. 5:Is it okay to increase penis size before marriage? 6:Is it okay to think about sex?or making images in your head about it. 7:Will every wish be garanted in jannah? 8:Are male muslims allowed to remove body hairs besides pubic? 9:Are anal hairs included in pubic hairs? 10:Is it okay for my wife after marriage to watch videos like (how to turn him on,most sensitive male places,prostate sex (if it is not a sin to do so),and for me to watch (ways to do sex censored verison or uncesored with good intention obviously after marriage) 11:Is it a sin to watch yourself naked when you are alone and taking your own naked pics? 12:What are the side effects of stopping ejaculation during a nightfall? 13:I rubbed my penis at night but nothing happened i went to sleep after one hour of sleep it ejaculated was it a sin? 14:Is it okay to taste precum or semen?or touch them with right hand. 15:I was late for the jammat I prayed the remaining rakkats.What about the sunnah that we need to pray before it? 16:Sometimes I ejaculate while only reading something about penis.Will it be counted as a sin? 17:I accidentally watched spencer tunick ( a nude photographer )but I coundn't hold myself and rewatched it 3 times again but did not ejaculated what should i do? Thanks bro. You can answer my questions shortly with a "yes" or "no" then give me the explanation if u want to.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

We apologise for the belated response.

Before answering the question, a few principles should be understood:

Masturbating is a major sin and should be avoided.[i] Almighty Allah describes the successful believers as follows:

{وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ إِلَّا عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ فَمَنِ ابْتَغَى وَرَاءَ ذَلِكَ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ} [المؤمنون: 5 - 7]

Translation: And those who guard their private parts, except from their wives or from those (bondwomen who are) owned by their hands, as they are not to be blamed. However, those that seek (sexual pleasure) beyond that are the transgressors. (Al-Muminoon: 5-7)

Allah Ta’ala also mentions:

 

 {وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُونَ} [المؤمنون: 3]

Translation: And those who turn away from worthless talk. (Al-Muminoon: 3)

Allah Ta’ala has also commanded us to not look at strange women and to guard our private parts. See the following verses:

ولا تقربوا الزنا إنه كان فاحشة وساء سبيلا (الاسراء:32)

 

Translation: Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils) (Al-Israa: 32)

 

قل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم ويحفظوا فروجهم ذلك أزكى لهم إن الله خبير بما يصنعون (النور:30)

 

Translation: Say to the believers they should lower their gaze and guard their private parts, that is purer for them. Allah is Aware of the things they do. (An-Noor: 30)

 

 

Hence, we should be very particular in safeguarding ourselves from sin. However, we should never loose hope. Allah Ta’ala is All-Forgiving and All-Merciful. If a person has committed sin, the door of Tawbah (Repentance) is always open. Allah Ta’ala says:

 

قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ (الزمر:53)

 

Translation: Say (to my servants Oh Rasulullah), do not be despondent of the mercy of Allah over that which you have transgressed. Verily, Allah is the forgiver of all sins. He is the Most Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

 

Also, when one ejaculates, it is compulsory to perform Ghusl. Performing Salah whilst in a state of impurity renders the Salah invalid.

With regards to the aforementioned query:

1)    If done for sexual desire, will be impermissible.

2)    The liquid which emits at the time of erection before ejaculation is Madhi (pre-coital fluid), which is impure. It breaks the Wudhu. Madhi (pre-coital fluid) also makes the clothing impure.[ii] Furthermore, if it emits whilst involved in harm, one will be sinful.

3)    No.

4)    Your question is unclear.

5)    No.

6)    No.

7)    Allah Ta’ala mentions:

 

{يُطَافُ عَلَيْهِمْ بِصِحَافٍ مِنْ ذَهَبٍ وَأَكْوَابٍ وَفِيهَا مَا تَشْتَهِيهِ الْأَنْفُسُ وَتَلَذُّ الْأَعْيُنُ وَأَنْتُمْ فِيهَا خَالِدُونَ} [الزخرف: 71]

Translation: Platters and cups of gold will be passed around among them and they will have there all that their hearts desire and their eyes find delight in. You will remain in it timelessly, for ever. (Az-Zukhruf: 71)

 

Allah Ta’ala also mentions regarding Jannah:

 

{لَا يَسْمَعُونَ فِيهَا لَغْوًا وَلَا تَأْثِيمًا} [الواقعة: 25]

Translation: They will hear no prattling in it nor any word of wrong. (Al-Waqiaa: 25)

 

8)    Not desirable unless there is an excessive need.[iii]

9)    Yes.[iv]

10) No.

11) Yes.

12) We do not understand the query, Nevertheless, as mentioned above, masturbating is prohibited and a major sin.

13) Yes.

14) No.

15) If one misses the Sunnah of Fajr Salah, and only managed to perform the Fardh, he may perform the Sunnah after sunrise until Istiwaa (pre Zawal time).[v]

If one misses the Sunnah before Dhuhr Salah, he should perform them after performing the two Sunnah’s after Dhuhr Salah.

16) Yes. One should not read regarding such things. It is rewarding to read Quran and books of Deen. Also, make the Dhikr of Allah Ta’ala.

17) Make Tawbah and Istighfaar.

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mahmood Suliman

Student Darul Iftaa
Gaborone, Botswana

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


[i] حاشية الطحطاوي على مراقي الفلاح شرح نور الإيضاح (ص: 96)

"لا لجلبها" أي فيحرم لما روي عنه صلى الله عليه وسلم ناكح اليد ملعون وقال ابن جريج سألت عنه عطاء فقال: مكروه وسمعت قوما يحشرون وأيديهم حبالى فأظنهم هؤلاء وقال سعيد بن جبير عذب الله أمة كانوا يعبثون بمذاكيرهم وورد سبعة لا ينظر الله إليهم منهم الناكح يده

 

الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (2/ 399)

(قَوْلُهُ: وَلَوْ خَافَ الزِّنَى إلَخْ) الظَّاهِرُ أَنَّهُ غَيْرُ قَيْدٍ بَلْ لَوْ تَعَيَّنَ الْخَلَاصُ مِنْ الزِّنَى بِهِ وَجَبَ؛ لِأَنَّهُ أَخَفُّ وَعِبَارَةُ الْفَتْحِ فَإِنْ غَلَبَتْهُ الشَّهْوَةُ فَفَعَلَ إرَادَةَ تَسْكِينِهَا بِهِ فَالرَّجَاءُ أَنْ لَا يُعَاقَبَ اهـ زَادَ فِي مِعْرَاجِ الدِّرَايَةِ وَعَنْ أَحْمَدَ وَالشَّافِعِيِّ فِي الْقَدِيمِ التَّرَخُّصُ فِيهِ وَفِي الْجَدِيدِ يَحْرُمُ وَيَجُوزُ أَنْ يَسْتَمْنِيَ بِيَدِ زَوْجَتِهِ وَخَادِمَتِهِ اهـ وَسَيَذْكُرُ الشَّارِحُ فِي الْحُدُودِ عَنْ الْجَوْهَرَةِ أَنَّهُ يُكْرَهُ وَلَعَلَّ الْمُرَادَ بِهِ كَرَاهَةُ التَّنْزِيهِ فَلَا يُنَافِي قَوْلَ الْمِعْرَاجِ يَجُوزُ تَأَمَّلْ وَفِي السِّرَاجِ إنْ أَرَادَ بِذَلِكَ تَسْكِينَ الشَّهْوَةِ الْمُفْرِطَةِ الشَّاغِلَةِ لِلْقَلْبِ وَكَانَ عَزَبًا لَا زَوْجَةَ لَهُ وَلَا أَمَةَ أَوْ كَانَ إلَّا أَنَّهُ لَا يَقْدِرُ عَلَى الْوُصُولِ إلَيْهَا لِعُذْرٍ قَالَ أَبُو اللَّيْثِ أَرْجُو أَنْ لَا وَبَالَ عَلَيْهِ وَأَمَّا إذَا فَعَلَهُ لِاسْتِجْلَابِ الشَّهْوَةِ فَهُوَ آثِمٌ اهـ.

بَقِيَ هُنَا شَيْءٌ وَهُوَ أَنَّ عِلَّةَ الْإِثْمِ هَلْ هِيَ كَوْنُ ذَلِكَ اسْتِمْتَاعًا بِالْجُزْءِ كَمَا يُفِيدُهُ الْحَدِيثُ وَتَقْيِيدُهُمْ كَوْنَهُ بِالْكَفِّ وَيَلْحَقُ بِهِ مَا لَوْ أَدْخَلَ ذَكَرَهُ بَيْنَ فَخِذَيْهِ مَثَلًا حَتَّى أَمْنَى، أَمْ هِيَ سَفْحُ الْمَاءِ وَتَهْيِيجُ الشَّهْوَةِ فِي غَيْرِ مَحَلِّهَا بِغَيْرِ عُذْرٍ كَمَا يُفِيدُهُ قَوْلُهُ وَأَمَّا إذَا فَعَلَهُ لِاسْتِجْلَابِ الشَّهْوَةِ إلَخْ؟ لَمْ أَرَ مَنْ صَرَّحَ بِشَيْءٍ مِنْ ذَلِكَ وَالظَّاهِرُ الْأَخِيرُ؛ لِأَنَّ فِعْلَهُ بِيَدِ زَوْجَتِهِ وَنَحْوِهَا فِيهِ سَفْحُ الْمَاءِ لَكِنْ بِالِاسْتِمْتَاعِ بِجُزْءٍ مُبَاحٍ كَمَا لَوْ أَنْزَلَ بِتَفْخِيذٍ أَوْ تَبْطِينٍ بِخِلَافِ مَا إذَا كَانَ بِكَفِّهِ وَنَحْوِهِ وَعَلَى هَذَا فَلَوْ أَدْخَلَ ذَكَرَهُ فِي حَائِطٍ أَوْ نَحْوِهِ حَتَّى أَمْنَى أَوْ اسْتَمْنَى بِكَفِّهِ بِحَائِلٍ يَمْنَعُ الْحَرَارَةَ يَأْثَمُ أَيْضًا وَيَدُلُّ أَيْضًا عَلَى مَا قُلْنَا مَا فِي الزَّيْلَعِيِّ حَيْثُ اسْتَدَلَّ عَلَى عَدَمِ حِلِّهِ بِالْكَفِّ بِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى {وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ} [المؤمنون: 5] الْآيَةُ وَقَالَ فَلَمْ يُبَحْ الِاسْتِمْتَاعُ إلَّا بِهِمَا أَيْ بِالزَّوْجَةِ وَالْأَمَةِ اهـ فَأَفَادَ عَدَمَ حِلِّ الِاسْتِمْتَاعِ أَيْ قَضَاءِ الشَّهْوَةِ بِغَيْرِهِمَا هَذَا مَا ظَهَرَ لِي وَاَللَّهُ سُبْحَانَهُ أَعْلَمُ.

 

البناية شرح الهداية (4/ 39)

 وهو المقصود من الجماع وهو قضاء الشهوة وهل يحل له أن يفعل ذلك إن أراد الشهوة لا يحل لقوله - صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ - «ناكح اليد ملعون» وإن أراد به تسكين ما به من الشهوة أرجو أن لا يكون عليه وبال

 

[ii] الأصل المعروف بالمبسوط للشيباني (1/ 47)

قلت وَمَا المنى والودى والمذى قَالَ أما المنى فَهُوَ خاثر أَي بِهِ غلظ أَبيض ينكسر مِنْهُ الذّكر وَأما المذى فَهُوَ رَقِيق الى الْبيَاض مَا هُوَ وَأما الودى فَهُوَ رَقِيق يَجِيء بعد الْبَوْل

[iii] الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (6/ 407)

وَلَا يَنْتِفُ أَنْفَهُ لِأَنَّ ذَلِكَ يُورِثُ الْأَكِلَةَ وَفِي حَلْقِ شَعْرِ الصَّدْرِ وَالظَّهْرِ تَرْكُ الْأَدَبِ كَذَا فِي الْقُنْيَةِ

 

فتاوی محمودیہ  19/444  فاروقیہ

 

[iv] الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (2/ 481)

(قَوْلُهُ وَكَذَا يُسْتَحَبُّ إلَخْ) أَيْ قَبْلَ الْغُسْلِ كَمَا فِي الْقُهُسْتَانِيِّ وَاللُّبَابِ وَالسِّرَاجِ وَفِي الزَّيْلَعِيِّ عَقِيبَ الْغُسْلِ تَأَمَّلْ وَالْإِزَالَةُ شَامِلَةٌ لِقَصِّ الْأَظْفَارِ وَالشَّارِبِ وَحَلْقِ الْعَانَةِ أَوْ نَتْفِهَا أَوْ اسْتِعْمَالِ النُّورَةِ وَكَذَا نَتْفُ الْإِبْطِ، وَالْعَانَةُ الشَّعْرِ الْقَرِيبِ مِنْ فَرْجِ الرَّجُلِ وَالْمَرْأَةِ وَمِثْلُهَا شَعْرُ الدُّبُرِ بَلْ هُوَ أَوْلَى بِالْإِزَالَةِ لِئَلَّا يَتَعَلَّقَ بِهِ شَيْءٌ مِنْ الْخَارِجِ عِنْدَ الِاسْتِنْجَاءِ بِالْحَجَرِ

 

حاشية الطحطاوي على مراقي الفلاح شرح نور الإيضاح (ص: 527)

ويستحب إزالة شعر الدبر خوفا من أن يعلق به شيء من النجاسة الخارجة فلا يتمكن من إزالته بالاستجمار

 

 

[v] المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني (1/ 277)

وصورة ما حكي عن رجل جاء إلى الإمام في صلاة الفجر وخاف أنه لو اشتغل بالسنّة يفوته الفجر بالجماعة، قال: فقد جاز له أن يدخل في صلاة الإمام ويترك السنّة ويقضيها بعدما طلعت الشمس عند محمد

 

 

 

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