Fatwa: # 43867
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
Date: 12th January 2020


My elder brother paid the expenses of my wedding, now he wants repayment



In 2014 I got married and my elder brother financially supported me. Because my father wasn't able to support during that time as he wasn't having any source of income due to his retirement. On other hand even I wasn't financially strong enough to bear all expenses.
When my elder brother spend money on my wedding, he never declared that he wanted me to pay him back in future. The amount he spend as following figures: 
Gold 6000 saudi riyals
Wedding Clothes 5000 saudi riyal
Total amount 11,000 saudi riyals 
After 3 years of wedding when we had family issues he demanded that whatever I have spent on you I want it back.  
Kindly guide me according to Quran and Sunnah with complete reference that either I am suppose to pay back his money or not.
With Best Regards,



In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

If your brother voluntarily contributed to your marriage expenses and he did not give you the money as a loan or pay on your behalf, then his contribution is regarded as a gift to you.[i]

It is not permissible to reclaim a gift from a blood relative. See the following hadith:

إذا كانت الهبة لذي رحم محرم منه لم يرجع فيها

When something is gifted to a blood relative, it should not be reclaimed

However, you may consider appreciating your brothers’ favour to you with a favour or gift to him.

Allah Ta'ālā says:

هَلْ جَزَاءُ الْإِحْسَانِ إِلَّا الْإِحْسَانُ

Is the reward for good [anything] but good?


And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best.

Hasan Ahmed Razzak

Student - Darul Iftaa

Paterson, New Jersey, USA

Checked and Approved by,

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


10-04-1441| 07-12-2019





الأصل للشيباني ط قطر (3/ 388)

قلت: أرأيت رجلاً يهب لرجل الهبة ويدفعها إليه هل يستطيع أن يرجع فيها؟ قال: إن كانت الهبة قائمة بعينها لم تزدد خيراً وليس الموهوب له بذي رحم محرم ولم يعوض الواهب فله أن يرجع فيها

قلت: أرأيت الواهب أله أن يرجع في هبته عند غير قاض؟ قال: لا. قلت: أرأيت إن رجع فيها عند غير قاض فسلم له الموهوب له ذلك ورد إليه الهبة أيجوز ذلك؟ قال: نعم. قلت: إن أبى الموهوب له أن يدفعها إليه أيجوز رجوع الواهب فيها؟ قال: لا، حتى يقدمه إلى القاضي فيقضي عليه


شرح مختصر الطحاوي للجصاص (4/ 28)

مسألة: [الرجوع في الصدقة والهبة]

قال: (وكل صدقة صحت، فليس فيها رجوع بحال، وكل هبة صحت لذي رحم محرم أو على عوض: فلا رجوع فيها، وله الرجوع فيها إذا لم يعوض منها، ولم تكن لذي رحم محرم)

فأما الصدقة فلا خلاف أنه لا يصح الرجوع فيها بعد صحتها، والهبة لذي الرحم المحرم في معنى الصدقة، لأنه قد استحق عليها الثواب بصلة الرحم، إذ كان موضوعها موضوع القربة، كالصدقة سواء


مختصر القدوري (ص: 125)

وإن وهب هبة لذي رحم محرم منه فلا رجوع فيها


الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (3/ 226)

قال: "وإن وهب هبة لذي رحم محرم منه فلا رجوع فيها" لقوله عليه الصلاة والسلام: "إذا كانت الهبة لذي رحم محرم منه لم يرجع فيها"؛ ولأن المقصود فيها صلة الرح


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