Fatwa: # 43563
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
Date: 23rd November 2019


Marriage dowry.



My mom dad married in 1990

It was decided that my dad would give 7.5 tola gold as mehar. But he was not able to give her that time. Later on  due to other household expenses and some financial conditions he was not able to give mehar. Till now he has not given her mehar. My questions are

-Is there marriage valid?

-Also now since the gold price has risen so much he is not in a position to give such huge mehar but my mother says I have forgiven you mehar of that quantity only give me this much and this much. Is it valid if my father gives her some gold which he can afford or something else like cash which he can afford now?

My mother understands that since now my father has become old enough that it is difficult for him to make for that 7.5 tola gold with his salary. She is convincing him that give me less amount it is enough for me but still my father says he will give that small amount or gold and also will save from his salary every month and try to complete mehar decided while nikah. Will my fathers mehar get completed if he just pays or gives some less amount or less gold as said by my mother now and not pay or give what was decided in mehar?



In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuhu.

You state that your mother and father married and a Mahar (Dowry) was fixed at the time. Your father was unable to give the Mahar immediately, and after many years of marriage has still not been able to give it. Your father not giving the Mahar does not affect the validity of the marriage; the marriage is valid.   

Mahar is the right of the wife. If she is not willing to make any changes then the fixed amount must be given to her, it is her right. However, if she out of her own free will and happiness is ready to compromise and make changes in the Mahar, she may do so.  Whatever new amount is agreed upon between the spouses will now suffice as the Mahar. The Mahar may be anything that is of monetary value, cash, gold, silver etc. It will be obligatory on the husband to fulfil this newly agreed upon Mahar[1].

Accordingly, if your mother stipulates a smaller amount of Mahar, it will mean she has forfeited the balance amount. Your father will be required to give the new amount of Mahar agreed by your mother.

And Allah Ta ‘āla Knows Best


Student – Darul Iftaa


Checked and approved by,

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

23-03-1441 | 20-11-2019


[1] قال الله تعالى في القرآن المجيد:

(وَآتُوا النِّسَاءَ صَدُقَاتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً ۚ فَإِنْ طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَنْ شَيْءٍ مِنْهُ نَفْسًا فَكُلُوهُ هَنِيئًا مَرِيئًا) (النساء/ 4)

 (إِلَّا أَنْ يَعْفُونَ أَوْ يَعْفُوَ الَّذِي بِيَدِهِ عُقْدَةُ النِّكَاحِ ۚ وَأَنْ تَعْفُوا أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ) (البقرة/ 237)


المحيط البرهاني (4/ 118)

و في المهر حقوق ثلاثة… حتي لو زوجت نفسها من رجل بعشرة، ثم أبرأته عن كلها أو عن بعضها، جاز.


الفتاوى التاتارخانية (4/ 232)

وفي اليتيمة: سئل أبو حامد عن امراة قالت لزوجها ’أبرأتك عن الصداق فجدد لي الصداق‘ فقال الزوج ’قبلت‘ فأبرأت المرأة ولم يجدد الصداق ولم يجدد الصداق فهل يبرأ عن الصداق؟ فقال نعم يبرأ.


خلاصة الدلائل وتنقيح المسائل (3/ 51)

(وقالا: ليس لهم حق الإعتراض) لأن المهر خالص حقها.


فتاویٰ محمودیہ (16/131)

مھر وسعت سے زیادہ ہو تب بھی نکاح درست ہے …نکاح تو صحیح ہوگیا اب تو مہر کے ادا کرنے کی تدبیر کرے یا معاف کرائے ۔


فتاویٰ عثمانیہ (5/228)

حنفیہ اگر چہ اس بات کے قائل ہیں کہ مہر نکاح کے واجبات اور شرائط میں سے ہے، تا ہم نکاح کرتے وقت مہر متعین نہ کرنے سے نکاح کے انعقاد پر کوئی اثر نہیں پڑتا…یہ الگ بات ہے کہ عورت بعد میں اپنا مہر معاف بھی کر سکتی ہے اور شوہر کو ہبہ بھی کر سکتی ہے، لیکن ابتداء اس کے لیے یہ حق نہیں کہ وہ مہر کی نفی کر کے نکاح کر لے۔


کتاب النوازل

(8/395) جو مہر فی الحال دینا قرار پائے اسے مہر معجل کہتے ہیں … لیکن اگر شوہر مہر مؤجل پہلے ہی ادا کردے تو اس سے اختیار ہے اور اس پر کچھ گناہ نہ ہوگا، اسی طرح اگر زوجہ کی رضامندی سے مہر معجل کو مؤجل کردے تو بھی گناہگار نہ ہوگا ۔

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