Fatwa: # 41088
Category: Character, Morals (Akhlaaq)
Country: Pakistan
Date: 13th September 2018


Staying Away from a Muslim for More Than Three Days


1. In Islam it is advised to resolve the fight with in 3 days. As it is forbidded to extend fight more than 3 days. Is this guidence is for your own family ( brother ,sister ,uncle etc) or for every muslim person even you dont have blood relation with them?

please guide us with references of Islam.



In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

If one has a dispute with anyone, it is not permissible to forsake that person more than three days. [1]

This is understood from the following hadith:

عن أبي أيوب رضي الله عنه، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: لا يحل لمسلم أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث، يلتقيان فيصد هذا ويصد هذا، وخيرهما الذي يبدأ بالسلام

Abu Ayyub (radhiallahu ‘anhu) narrated that Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “It is not permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three days; when they meet they turn away from each other. The first to greet the other with salam is the better of the two.”  (Sahih al-Bukhari, 6237)[2]

This prohibition applies to all Muslims, regardless of blood relation.

And Allah Ta‘ālā Knows Best.

Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.



مرقاة المفاتيح شرح مشكاة المصابيح (٨/٣١٤٧)  

وَأَجْمَعَ الْعُلَمَاءُ عَلَى أَنَّ مَنْ خَافَ مِنْ مُكَالَمَةِ أَحَدٍ وَصِلَتِهِ مَا يُفْسِدُ عَلَيْهِ دِينَهُ أَوْ يُدْخِلَ مَضَرَّةً فِي دُنْيَاهُ يَجُوزُ لَهُ مُجَانَبَتُهُ وَبُعْدُهُ، وَرَبَّ صَرْمٍ جَمِيلٍ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُخَالَطَةٍ تُؤْذِيهِ.


صحيح البخاري (٨/٥٣)

٦٢٣٧ - حدثنا علي بن عبد الله، حدثنا سفيان، عن الزهري، عن عطاء بن يزيد الليثي، عن أبي أيوب رضي الله عنه، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: لا يحل لمسلم أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث، يلتقيان فيصد هذا ويصد هذا، وخيرهما الذي يبدأ بالسلام

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