Fatwa: # 41074
Category: Miscellaneous
Country: United States
Date: 29th September 2018


One should not avoid having children


As salamualaikum

A man divorced with 3 kids, decided not to have any more kids. So he was looking for someone divorced or widow who already has kids and may not want any more kids. If a single women who never has any kids, wants to marry him and live with him without having any kids, will it be okay for him to marry her ?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

It is permissible for the man to marry such a woman. However, they should not avoid having children due to the fear of maintaining children.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mahomed Yasser Mahomed Iunus Hussen

Student Darul Iftaa

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


{فالآن باشروهن وابتغوا ما كتب الله لكم}، قيل في التفسير: يعني من الولد.

وأيضا: فإن الولد يكون لها إذا كانت حرة، فليس له أن يمنعها حقها من الولد.

*وأما الزوجة الأمة، فالإذن في العزل إلى مولاها؛ لأنه هو المستحق للولد دونها.

*قال: (وروى الحسن بن زياد عن أبي يوسف: أن الإذن في العزل عن الزوجة الأمة إليها دون مولاها كالحرة، وإذا كانت أمته بملك اليمين: فله أن يعزل عنها).

وذلك لما حدثنا عبد الباقي بن قانع قال: حدثنا محمد بن عبدوس بن كامل قال: حدثنا علي بن الجعد قال: حدثنا زهير عن أبي الزبير عن جابر قال: "جاء رجل إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال: إن لي جارية وهي خادمتنا، وأنا أطوف عليها، وأنا أكره أن تحبل.

فقال: اعزل عنها إن شئت، فسيأتيها ما قدر لها، فلبث الرجل، ثم أتاه، فقال: قد حبلت، فقال: قد أخبرتك أنه سيأتيها ما قدر لها". شرح مختصر الطحاوي للجصاص (4/ 445)


{وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ خَشْيَةَ إِمْلَاقٍ نَحْنُ نَرْزُقُهُمْ وَإِيَّاكُمْ إِنَّ قَتْلَهُمْ كَانَ خِطْئًا كَبِيرًا} [الإسراء: 31]

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