Category: Marriage (Nikah)
Fatwa#: 40873
Asked Country: United States

Answered Date: Aug 08,2018

Title: Do I have to stay in iddah after getting a divorce from my non muslim spouse and do I need a wali to get me married?

Question

I am an American Non-Muslim who had decided to convert to Islam. However, I am legally married (through civil marriage, no religious ceremony). My husband has been in prison since November 2017 and i told him in April of this year that i was divorcing him. He received the papers of the civil divorce this May. It will not be filed with the court until we both sign (some time between the end of September but no later than next June).

I made the decision to convert to Islam and marry a Muslim man. We wish to marry (Islamically first then civilly once the courts allow). Is there iddah in this case, when may we marry?

I no longer get my menstrual cycle, as I have had a surgery. Will I need a wali for our Nikah?

Thank you for your help and guidance. 

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.

As-salaamu `alaykum wa-ramatullahi wa-barakatuh.

It is pleasing to know that you intend to accept Islaam. It is a great bounty from the side of Almighty Allah that he has inspired you to accept Islaam. You should do so as soon as possible. May Allah guide you to the right path and grant you steadfastness on it. Allah mentions in the Quraan;

{وَمَنْ يُؤْمِنْ بِاللَّهِ وَيَعْمَلْ صَالِحًا يُدْخِلْهُ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا أَبَدًا} [الطلاق: 11]

“Whoever believes in Allah and does righteous actions, He (Allah) will admit him in paradise beneath it are flowing rivers and he shall dwell therein forever”. (Sura Talaaq)

In a Hadith it is mentioned;

أَنَّ الْإِسْلَامَ يَهْدِمُ مَا كَانَ قَبْلَهُ

صحيح مسلم (1/ 112)

“Indeed Islaam obliterates all sins that were commiyed before it (before accepting Islaam)” (Saheeh Muslim).

Accepting Islaam is a means of success in this world as well as in the hereafter.

As for your queries;

  1. Once you accept Islaam you will have to spend three months in iddah, (waiting period before) you may marry the muslim.[1]
  2. You may get married without a wali.[2]
  3. The procedure of Nikaah in Islaam is a proposal of marriage from either the man or woman and acceptance of the marriage proposal from the other potential spouse in the present tense or past tense. For example, the man says, “I marry you” or “have married you”. The woman replies, “I marry you” or “have married you”. All this must be witnessed in the same sitting by at least two adult muslim males or one adult muslim male and two adult muslim females.[3]

And Allah Ta`ala Knows Best.

Hussein Muhammad.

Student Darul Iftaa

Arusha, Tanzania

Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.



 

[1]

الدر المختار شرح تنوير الأبصار وجامع البحار (ص: 199)

(لم تبن حتى تحيض ثلاثا) أو تمضي ثلاثة أشهر (قبل إسلام الآخر) إقامة لشرط الفرقة مقام السبب،  

 

البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق ومنحة الخالق وتكملة الطوري (3/ 228)

فلو كانت لا تحيض لصغر أو كبر فلا تبين إلا بمضي ثلاثة أشهر

 

مجمع الأنهر في شرح ملتقى الأبحر (1/ 371)

(وَلَوْ كَانَ ذَلِكَ) أَيْ إسْلَامُ زَوْجَةِ الْكَافِرِ أَوْ زَوْجِ الْمَجُوسِيَّةِ (فِي دَارِهِمْ لَا تَبِينُ حَتَّى تَحِيضَ ثَلَاثًا) إنْ كَانَتْ مِمَّنْ تَحِيضُ فَلَوْ كَانَتْ مِمَّنْ لَا تَحِيضُ لِصِغَرٍ، أَوْ كِبَرٍ فَلَا تَبِينُ إلَّا بِمُضِيِّ ثَلَاثَةِ أَشْهُرٍ

 

Fatawaa Raheemiyya, Vol 8, 404.

 

[2]

الأصل للشيباني ط قطر (10/ 198)

وإذا زوجت المرأة بكراً كانت أو ثيبًا نفسها زوجاً بشاهدين وهو كفؤ لها فهو جائز. ألا ترى أنهما يتوارثان؛ لأن النكاح قد لزمها. وإنما يبطل النكاح إذا كان غير كفء لها، فأما إذا كان كفؤًا لها فهو جائز

 

شرح مختصر الطحاوي للجصاص (4/ 278)

وجميع ما قدمنا في جواز النكاح بغير ولي، يدل على ذلك أيضًا

 

النتف في الفتاوى للسغدي (1/ 267)

وَالسَّابِع اذا كَانَ بِغَيْر ولي فِي قَول مُحَمَّد وَالشَّافِعِيّ وَهُوَ جَائِز فِي قَول ابي حنيفَة وابي يُوسُف وابي عبد الله

 

[3]

مختصر القدوري (ص: 145)

النكاح ينعقد بالإيجاب والقبول بلفظين يعبر بهما عن الماضي أو يعبر بأحدهما عن الماضي وبالآخر عن المستقبل مثل أن يقول: زوجتي فيقول زوجتك

ولا يعقد نكاح المسلمين إلا بحضور شاهدين حرين بالغين عاقلين مسلمين أو رجل

وامرأتين عدولا كانوا غيرا عدول أو محدودين في قذف

 

 

 

النتف في الفتاوى للسغدي (1/ 270)

شَرَائِط النِّكَاح الصَّحِيح

وشرائط النِّكَاح الصَّحِيح الْمجمع على صِحَّته سَبْعَة

احدها رِضَاء الْمَرْأَة اذا كَانَت حرَّة بَالِغَة عَاقِلَة

وَالثَّانِي رِضَاء الْوَلِيّ اذا كَانَ الْوَلِيّ حرا بَالغا عَاقِلا مُسلما

وَالثَّالِث خلو مَا بَين الزَّوْجَيْنِ من الْحُرْمَة المؤبدة والموقته الَّتِي قدمنَا ذكرهَا

وَالرَّابِع الشُّهُود

وَالْخَامِس الْكَفَاءَة

وَالسَّادِس الْقُدْرَة على الْمهْر وَالنَّفقَة

وَالسَّابِع تولي العقد من الزَّوْجَيْنِ اَوْ من يَنُوب عَنْهُمَا من ولي اَوْ وَكيل اَوْ متكلف اَوْ مَا يقوم مقَام الْخطاب من كتاب اَوْ رِسَالَة

 

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